The term coercive control was created in order to fully understand that domestic violence is not just about physical abuse.
Coercive control is when a person with whom you have a relationship behaves repeatedly in a way that makes you controlled, dependent, scared, or isolated.
Signs of coercive control include:
1 Monitoring your activities with family and friends
2 Constantly checking up on you
3 Questioning your behaviour
4 Setting time limits when you are out with friends
5 Isolating your from family and friends
6 Banning you from seeing certain people
7 Stopping you from working in certain places
8 Controlling how you spend your money
9 Controlling how you dress or style your hair
10 Telling you what you should eat
11 Making disparaging comments about your figure
12 Putting you down in public
13 Repeatedly telling you that you're worthless
14 Allowing you no privacy
15 Damaging your property
16 Using children to report on you
17 Getting angry at the slightest little thing
18 You are constantly living in fear of upsetting them
19 You have to do things in a particular way or they will get angry
20 Your needs are not important and never discussed
From https://www.learning-mind.com/coercive-control-manipulation/